A lady does not find any reason to continue staying under the same roof with a mother who makes her feel less and useless.
Dee has explained that she feels so unworthy anytime her mother compares her to her siblings and makes comparisons with the quality of life they live versus hers.
In a social media post, a very distraught Dee has taken the decision to move out of her mother’s house to go in search of a place where she will have her peace.
The constant pressure, namecalling, comparisons and unending drama has left Dee with no option than to move out since her mother who is supposed to be her only source of hope has become a thorn in her flesh.
Dee added that she is unable to approach her father with her worry because her mother has succeeded in influencing him to be cold towards her.
Dee said she rarely has a conversation with her mother who treats her with an iron fist and her siblings with visible favouritism.
I have a mother who always compares me to my siblings as a sign of motivation. I always feel useless and I’m tired. I’m packing my bags.
I’m more open to my father than my Mom. But sometimes my father is unapproachable because of my influencing my mother is. Pointless
We don’t communicate. There’s favouritism in the house. Sometimes I wonder if I’m her child or wah…
Dee concluded by describing the family as the biggest scam in the world:
Family is the biggest scam anyone can have!! I’m sick of it
When you are being compared to your siblings on the regular especially when they are making progress in life than you are, it will clearly be a headache to youth like Dee who feels useless and depressed.
Her posts have attracted a lotta concern from people who believe the pressure parents put on their parents by making unrelated comparisons does more harm than good to children.
Below are some of the helpful suggestions Dee received:
John Msomi wrote: From the fact that you aware that it’s motivation, it’s means you know it comes from the good heart it might not be coming out well bt packing your bags is out of the equation.
Senzo wrote: Don’t listen to social media people telling you it’s a smart move. Address the issue with Mom there is no better way of fixing the problem than sitting down and telling her “Mom I don’t like one two and three… and you’ll see.
Sarinah wrote: Growing up my mom used to constantly wish I was more like her sister’s daughter so one day I got pissed I was tired already of being compared to her, so I asked her would you have rather gave birth to her instead of me? She said no so I asked her why do you want me to be like her
And she can’t be me so accept that, you make do with what you have mother, cause if I had to wish you were like someone’s mother you would be broken and feel unappreciated, since that day she never compared me with anyone rather found other ways of correcting me in my wrongs.